Many women, children, and men in the world are victims of domestic abuse– this is any behaviour that maintains control over a spouse, partner, family member, or girlfriend/boyfriend. Abuse may be expressed physically, emotionally, verbally, sexually, or financially, and you may feel threatened, controlled or coerced.

If you are in Birmingham, England and you are exposed to violence, 3 hotlines that support with abuse and domestic violence are available to you. You do not have to bear that burden in quiet, alone. Reach out if you are noticing these signs:

Believing that your partner/family member’s aggressive behavior is your fault
Avoiding certain topics so that you don’t anger your partner/family member
Not allowing you to work or get an education
Your partner/family member is constantly trying to convince you you’re crazy and makes you doubt your experiences (also known as gaslighting)
Your partner/family member is acting excessively jealously
Being forced to have sex or perform other sexual activities that you don’t want to
Your partner/family member has told you they will commit suicide if you leave
Being exposed to intimidation and coercion

You might feel completely alone if you are a victim of abuse and domestic violence. Many people in your position tend to hide what they are experiencing. However, know that it is nothing to be ashamed of. The abuse and everything about it is absolutely not your fault.

If you're experiencing abuse and domestic violence, feeling scared is perfectly natural. You could be doubtful and convinced that there’s no way out. Talking to someone in Birmingham, England who understands how abusive relationships work might help you feel less hopeless and powerless.

If you feel like you might need support today, try reaching out to a hotline in Birmingham, England. It's free and confidential.