Domestic abuse is any action or behaviour from a partner or spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend or family member that aims to control you. For some, this is physical violence, for others it takes the form of verbal, emotional, sexual or financial abuse.

If you are being psychologically, emotionally or physically harmed, you are not alone. Statistics show that one in three women and one in three men have experienced abuse and domestic violence. If you're looking for support, there are 5 abuse and domestic violence hotlines in Jersey. Reach out if this is happening:

Avoiding certain topics so that you don’t anger your partner/family member
Your partner/family member has told you they will commit suicide if you leave
Your privacy online being invaded
Your belongings and property being destroyed
Not allowing you to work or get an education
Believing that your partner/family member’s aggressive behavior is your fault
Feeling helpless, desperate, or emotionally numb
Being taken advantage of financially

Every case of abuse and domestic violence is unique. Every family and partnership has its own story. It’s perfectly normal to feel conflicted and insecure about the whole situation. Going through it alone can be confusing and, importantly, dangerous.

Every story of abuse and domestic violence is unique. You are the one who will figure out what the best way out is for you as a person and in your circumstances. However, it is always easier to overcome such hardships with the right kind of support.

If you feel like you might need support today, try reaching out to a hotline in Jersey. It's free and confidential.